posts saying that the symptoms of certain mental illnesses are not inherently abusive aren’t saying that people mentally ill people can never ever be abusive, they’re literally saying that those symptoms we have are not abusive and our mental illness doesn’t automatically make us abusive. if you honestly believe thats what we’re trying to get across, then you need to listen to us more
this is the post i was taking abt im bad at paraphrasing
anyway i have literally seen posts that say shit like ‘borderlines will be hurt very badly if you leave them and can become clingy to the point of creepiness’ thats fucking abusive right there. its guilt-tripping and manipulation. i have borderline fyi and literally only see other mentally ill folks make these criticisms. there are ways to phrase abandonment fears without sounding like a goddamn abuser, esp considering im a mentally ill person who has experienced abuse by other mentally ill folks who used their dxes to validate the abuse and invalidate me.